tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-85408650455206427342024-02-08T14:02:02.137-06:00Your Neighbor Has AIDSFor people helping people who are living with HIV/AIDS.Elandushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00131744423302201676noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8540865045520642734.post-42924064109728343032010-06-29T09:59:00.000-05:002010-06-29T09:59:33.685-05:00'All the Way IN Anniversary Celebration'<a href="http://archive.constantcontact.com/fs060/1101370588500/archive/1103524212108.html">'All the Way IN Anniversary Celebration'</a>Elandushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00131744423302201676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8540865045520642734.post-47057581536779308892009-09-24T08:11:00.000-05:002009-09-24T08:11:33.529-05:00Marathon UpdatesHear all about my experiences in Maui during my first marathon to raise money to fight HIV/AIDS on the upcoming episode of <a href="http://www.blogtalkradio.com/All-the-Way-In">All the Way IN</a><br />
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Title of show: Who Would Have Thought: Part Three.Elandushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00131744423302201676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8540865045520642734.post-17046086527978113192009-08-31T05:58:00.003-05:002009-08-31T06:03:18.625-05:00Vanderbilt PrinciplesMy father, Vanderbilt Lake, taught me how to love myself, love my country, respect others, honor my family, and never submit to the expectations of others. He has been dead for 18 years, but I still can hear his warm tenor voice telling me to let the words of my foes roll away from me like water from a duck's back.He was the first person in my life to show how to endure the times when the world seemed determined to destroy me.<br /><br />As a young man in his early 20's living in Georgia, my father witnessed the torture and lynching of several close family members. He then had to flea the state of Georgia for his life because the lynch mob wanted to kill everyone who was a Lake. My father went on to become a WWI and WWII veteran, loving husband, wonderful father, creative entrepreneur, and passionate patriot.<br /><br />The Vanderbilt Principles (formally the 12 Principles for Living All the Way IN Life) are based on the clear and poignant wisdom that my father taught me. His life lessons still comfort me in difficult times and inform me when making important decisions.Sharing what I know through the Vanderbilt Principles is my way of honoring my father while helping all who follow these principles.<br /><br />Are you in a cycle of destructive behavior?<br /><br />Do you feel that you are stuck trying to fix the same problem in your life?<br /><br />The Vanderbilt Principles teaches how to recognize self-defeating behavior and put distance between you and the harmful people in your life.Elandushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00131744423302201676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8540865045520642734.post-56714513252007250952009-08-04T05:43:00.001-05:002009-08-04T05:45:09.745-05:00Second Principle to Living All the Way IN Your LifeKnow who you are, prepare to meet the real you. Accept there are things about you that you don't understand or recognize.Elandushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00131744423302201676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8540865045520642734.post-28065045177918574072009-07-28T14:50:00.002-05:002009-07-28T14:53:05.958-05:00First Principle to Living All the Way In Your Life. No Plan B<a href="http://www.blogtalkradio.com/All-the-Way-In">Decide what you want.</a>Elandushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00131744423302201676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8540865045520642734.post-49648619046401238032009-07-28T03:04:00.002-05:002009-07-28T03:11:12.364-05:00Running to Life: Fear Sinks. Faith Floats10 weeks into my AIDS Marathon training, and much of what I have to share with you so far can be summarized in 4 words. Fear sinks. Faith floats. Or, to accomplish goals that seem impossible, we must starve the fear and feed the faith. A few days ago, I completed 14 miles toward my ultimate goal of 26.2. This means that I passed the halfway mark in training. In crossing this milestone, one that I could not have imagined for myself just 6 months ago, I now see training as an act of labor. I labor to free myself from a stifling cocoon of fear created by doubt and insecurity. To be successful, I need to recognize and understand where fear stops me and faith propels me. I need to know when to starve fear and when to feed faith.<br /><br /><br />Understanding how fear is fed comes when we examine our actions and motivations. An action can illustrate a fear and motivation can define that fear. For instance, many of us are afraid of being alone. Our actions illustrate this fear. We constantly seek the acceptance of others even when we are hurt in the process. Our motivation defines the fear. We seek acceptance to ease our feelings of loneliness and worthlessness rather than to exchange ideas or socialize with people we care about and who care about us. I identify feeding fear through failure, refusal, and avoidance. We feed fear when we fail to claim our strength. We feed fear when we refuse to honor who we are. We feed fear when we avoid asking for help. These are fears I have fed.<br /><br /><br />There were times when I believed that I needed to belong. I connected inclusion by others to the level of my success. All the while, I seldom recognized the fact that my success or failure depended on my ability to claim my strength unapologetically. Training for this marathon shows that my actions—constantly seeking out a place, group, or organization to include me even when inclusion was not good for me—reveals a fear. I am afraid to claim my own strength.<br /><br /><br />At the start of training, we were placed in running groups according to the time it took to finish 3 miles. My group was the slowest and the smallest. The second time that we ran together, my 'group' ran too fast for me. I fell behind and finished alone and sad. Feeling sorry for myself, I went home and complained to my partner that I had no group. I had just finished a major accomplishment—completed 4 miles for the first time in my life—yet, I felt defeated. To go on with the training and keep my promise to myself, I had to process why having a group was so important to me. I had to understand why being alone meant exclusion. I had to grasp the reason why solitude equaled failure in my mind. Self-realization is a difficult, and necessary life-long process. Now, I run alone and I enjoy the gift of solitude. In addition, I find it easy to claim the strength that I find with each new milestone, because it is obvious that my success comes through my efforts and with the help of God.<br /><br /><br />Many times I have put my needs and expectations behind everyone else. I spent little time examining what I expected from others, and who I wanted in my life. I often would try to do what anyone asked me to do without discerning whether or not my best interest would be served. Being a minister enabled me to neglect myself in the service of others. Training for this marathon helps me see that my actions—consistently putting myself last—reveals a fear. I am afraid to respect and honor the person God created me to be.<br /><br /><br />Around the time I was completing my 6th mile run, I suddenly hit 'the wall'. My body simply could not run any longer. I felt weaker than I have ever felt in my life, and I have given birth to 4 children. With great difficulty, I managed to complete the miles, and while talking with my coach afterwards, learned that my weakness came from not eating. I did not honor myself enough to give my body what it needed. At this point, I started examining other places in life when I did not respect and honor myself. The more I examined, the more I realized that some things still needed to change. Often we seek respect and honor from strangers all while we fail at self-respect and self-honor. Now, I listen to my body and take the time to learn what I need and when. Overall, I honor who I am more, and my actions illustrate this.<br /><br /><br />Until training, I would do almost anything to avoid asking for help. Asking for help, in my mind, meant revealing a weakness that could be used against me by others. In fact, I was so focused on not needing anyone that I became blind to the help that was freely given. Soliciting donations as I train has forced me to acknowledge that my actions—avoiding asking for help and taking the help I have for granted—reveals a fear. I am afraid to show my vulnerability.<br /><br /><br />When I decided to run a marathon, I thought about having to ask people for donations. I tried to think of a way to pay the pledge rather than ask others. The fact that I made a promise to myself to follow the entire process, meant that I could not avoid asking for help in fulfilling my pledge. Processing why this part of the marathon experience was so difficult helped me see where I was refusing to acknowledge my vulnerability, thereby alienating potential networks of support. The very need that we hide from others is, many times, the boulder that separates us from success. Now, it is still uncomfortable to ask for donations, but with every request the discomfort lessens. In addition, I identify new networks of support and connection with each round of solicitations.<br /><br /><br />As I feed fear less, I find that I feed faith more. Many of us talk about having faith. We talk about being faithful. We describe the characteristics of the faithful. Seldom have I heard people say they feed faith, which made me think about what this means. We feed faith by having open, curious minds and grateful, humble spirits. Our minds are open to new ideas and possibilities. Our spirits are open to who and what God is sending our way. We are curious about other people. We are curious about ourselves. Instead of waiting for a miracle to part the sea, we are grateful for the small blessings. We wonder about what motivates us to act, and are humble enough to admit when our motivation defines a fear. We examine why particular people are drawn to us, and why we are drawn to them.<br /><br /><br />At about 7.5 toward the 14 mile mark, I was not sure if I could go on. I was only half finished and the thought of going another 7 miles seemed impossible. In my uncertainty, I leaned—I dared not sit for fear of not getting up for hours— against a tree and tried to determine if I should stop or go on. Out of breath, hot, salty, thirsty, nauseous, and happy to have a tree to hug, I thought about Matthew 14:25-34. The disciples are in a boat in the middle of a storm. They look out over the rough water and are astonished to see Jesus walking toward them. When Peter saw this, he responded by challenging Jesus to let him walk on water as well. Jesus told him to step out on the water and his faith would not let him sink. At first, Peter stood on water. Then, he became afraid and sank.<br /><br /><br />There have been many times when I challenged Jesus to help me walk on water. When I came out after over 15 years of marriage and four daughters, I walked on water. I had no idea what would happen to me, but I knew that my life was over the minute I stepped out of the safe boat of heterosexuality and onto the stormy water of same gender love. When I decided to go to Union Theological Seminary in New York at an age when most people were solid in their chosen careers, I walked on water. I had no way of knowing how a degree from Union would change me as I stepped out of the predictable boat of religious dogma and onto the uncertain water of interfaith spirituality.<br /><br /><br />Standing at the halfway point, between stopping at 7 miles or going on to 14, halfway between feeding fear or feeding faith, I let my thoughts and memories wash over me. I wondered what would have happened if Peter had fed his faith more than his fear. I remembered the times that I fed my faith in the past. I thought about my last year in seminary when mice threatened to overtake my apartment. The building had an ongoing battle with mice, and after 2 years, the mice were winning. In desperation, I gave God a challenge. I told God that I was either going to finish the year and graduate or fight the mice and fail. I could not do both and God had to make the choice for me. The next day the mice were gone. I went on to graduate. On to walk on water. Yes, I remembered. Then, I found and claimed new strength, let go of the tree, and finished the 14 miles.<br /><br />I walked on water, again.<br /><br />©2009Deborah E. Lake. All rights reserved.<br />Make donations at deborahelake.com. All donations are tax deductible and go directly to the AIDS Foundation of Chicago.Elandushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00131744423302201676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8540865045520642734.post-39882514109875343902009-07-15T10:07:00.001-05:002009-07-15T10:10:13.834-05:00Care in ContextThe human psyche is amazing.If the human brain is the primary organ of human adaptation, then the psyche is the accumulated effect of each individual person's adaptation to the human and physical environment.It's the brain that allows human beings to be able to build societies in a vast range of environments that offer many different kinds of challenges. Our brains, and their function - our psyches-adapt, build relationships and communities, rituals and governments that make it possible for us to live effective and satisfying lives in environments as distinct as dust storms and ice storms, rain forests and mountain ranges.<br /><br />We know that human psyche can adapt, can find a balance in all sorts of circumstances, can create all sorts of societies and relationships that keep us functioning on an even keel, eating, hunting or raising food, building shelters, finding mates, raising children, caring for the old. But there are conditions, physical and human, that overwhelm the human psyche. and when the human psyche is overwhelmed (in the words of <a href="http://rs6.net/tn.jsp?t=jnsfcxcab.0.0.uk49mxbab.0&ts=S0381&p=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.cavalcadeproductions.com%2Fbessel-van-der-kolk.html&id=preview" target="_blank" track="on" linktype="link">Bessel Van der Kolk</a>) we talk about trauma.Why write about trauma in a newsletter about caring for people with HIV?Because trauma - overwhelming, protracted or unrelenting fear, hurt or danger-is common in the lives of people living with HIV/AIDS -more so than in the general population (reviewed in Whetten et all 2008) .<br /><br />Because psychosocial factors like having a trauma history (along with depression and other mental illnesses), are known barriers to the ability of people living with HIV/AIDS adhering to ART regimens. Because people who have experienced multiple traumatic events - abuse, sexual assault, homelessness - are at higher risk for a host of negative health outcomes (<a href="http://rs6.net/tn.jsp?t=jnsfcxcab.0.0.uk49mxbab.0&ts=S0381&p=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.cdc.gov%2Fnccdphp%2FACE%2F&id=preview" target="_blank" track="on" linktype="link">the ACE study</a>). There is even some evidence emerging that people who have experienced traumatic stress experience more rapid decrease in CD4+/CD8+ cell ratios than those without trauma histories.Elandushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00131744423302201676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8540865045520642734.post-82189492846128956352009-07-15T09:52:00.002-05:002009-07-15T10:07:12.126-05:00Eternal WellJohn 4:7-14 describes the relationship that starts between Jesus and the woman at the well or the Samaritan Woman when Jesus asks her for a drink of water. In the time of Jesus, there were social and religious customs that made even common conversation between men and women or Samaritans and Jews taboo.<br /><br />These restrictions were validated by religious beliefs through the clean/unclean system, and upheld by political power through laws. When Jesus dared to speak to the Samaritan Woman and she dared to respond, they entered into a relationship that challenged these widely accepted taboos.<br /><br />The attitudes that separated Jews and Samaritans and men and women in the past are similar to some of the attitudes we have about HIV/AIDS today. Our attitudes separate the have from the have not: those who have HIV/AIDS from those who have not. This helps to make discussing HIV beyond an impersonal 101 workshop taboo in many communities.<br /><br /><br />How many times do we wonder about the status of someone we know and care about, but decide not to express our concern, because 'you don't talk about the virus'? Each time we do this, we miss an opportunity to challenge a life-threatening taboo. The result is HIV continues to spread in our silence.Where in our close relationships do we honor the taboos of our day, and abandon the people in our lives who are living with HIV or AIDS because we 'don't want people to think we are positive'?<br /><br />Often, we fail to follow the example of Jesus and the Samaritan Woman. We fail to challenge the current attitudes that separate us from one another. In so doing, we fail to build relationships that are based on giving and receiving the eternal water of the Spirit.<br /><br />When we fail to challenge, we lose the chance to connect with one another. When we do not connect, we miss an opportunity to give and receive. When we do not give or accept, we fail to build intimate, life-giving relationships that are grounded in honesty, trust, and respect.How many times do we miss our opportunity to challenge?<br /><br />How many times do we wonder about the status of someone we know and care about, but decide not to express our concern, because 'you don't talk about the virus'? Each time we do this, we miss an opportunity to challenge a life-threatening taboo. The result is HIV continues to spread in our silence.Where in our close relationships do we honor the taboos of our day, and abandon the people in our lives who are living with HIV or AIDS because we 'don't want people to think we are positive'?<br /><br />Jesus calls us to do more than stand up and keep our homes and loved ones protected. Jesus calls us to break the barriers that separate us and reach out to one another so that God's gift of eternal life can be given and received on earth. When Jesus recognized and spoke to the humanity in the Samaritan Woman and she responded likewise, they both demonstrated how to be in relationship with one another in times of oppression, war, crime, and, yes, even illness.<br /><br />God Is With Us,<br />Rev. Deborah LakeElandushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00131744423302201676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8540865045520642734.post-25502231873346728182009-07-15T09:44:00.000-05:002009-07-15T09:52:11.643-05:00At the Well E-News® is theologically grounded in: John 4:7-147 A Samaritan woman came to draw water, and Jesus said to her, "Give me a drink." 8 (His disciples had gone to the city to buy food.) 9 The Samaritan woman said to him, "How is it that you, a Jew, ask a drink of me, a woman of Samaria?" (Jews do not share things in common with Samaritans.) 10 Jesus answered her, "If you knew the gift of God, and who it is that says to you 'Give me a drink,' you would have asked him, and he would have given you living water." 11 The woman said to him, "Sir, you have no bucket, and the well is deep. Where do you get that living water? 12 Are you greater than our ancestor Jacob, who gave us the well, and with his sons and his flocks drank from it?" 13 Jesus said to her, "Everyone who drinks of this water will be thirsty again, 14 but those who drink of the water that I will give them will never be thirsty. The water that I will give will become in them a spring of water gushing up to eternal life."<br />Translation from The New Oxford AnnotatedElandushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00131744423302201676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8540865045520642734.post-49327162261233696142009-01-08T15:39:00.002-06:002009-01-08T15:50:34.290-06:00At the Well E-News Announcement<div style="text-align: justify;"><div style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-weight: bold;">You care for someone with HIV/AIDS.</span><br /></div>We already know that studies reveal if people who are coming to terms with having HIV/AIDS are able to talk with family, friends, and loved ones, the time it takes for them to adjust is shortened.<br /><br /><div style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-weight: bold;">You want to support someone living with HIV/AIDS.</span><br /></div>Family, friends, loved ones, and caregivers play key roles in how soon people process how having HIV/AIDS changes their lives. Yet often we do not know how to help.<br /><br /><div style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-weight: bold;">You don't know how to respond when someone you know says I have HIV. </span><br /></div>One of the greatest fears people have when considering whether to talk about having HIV or AIDS with family, friends, and loved ones is rejection.<br /><br />Family, friends, loved ones and caregivers have a direct impact on how soon people with HIV/AIDS access help. Stigma that is connected to religious belief, social attitude, and individual ignorance still makes the process of getting support and care difficult. At the Well E-News is your tool to help you address the stigma and become part of a life-giving support system for the person, or people, who need you.<br /><br />HIV/AIDS professional caregivers know that quick follow-up to a positive HIV test is crucial to getting the treatment that can lead to avoiding possible health related catastrophes later. At the Well E-News will guide you through the process of effectively addressing some of the initial challenges that inhibit people from getting the life-extending help they need.<br /><br />One common reaction to having HIV/AIDS is fear. People are afraid that those who are important to them will turn their backs. At the Well E-News will give you what you need to address this fear, and break the resulting isolation that often comes with having HIV/AIDS.<br /><br />Starting Friday, January 30 and continuing every Friday there after, At the Well E-News will come by email to my subscribers. We will explore topics like: being in relationship (your help is only as effective as your relationship is strong), trust and why confidentiality is important, how to know when you are over your head, and what to do when you don't know what to say.<br /><br /> * Subscribers will learn about the difference between professional caregivers and designated caregivers.<br /><br /> * Subscribers will learn how to determine which kind of caregiver they are.<br /><br /> * Subscribers will have opportunities to ask questions and to share their wisdom with others.<br /><br /><br />To sign up to receive At the Well E-News <a href="http://mailto:contact@deborahelake.com/">email me</a>.<br /><br /><div style="text-align: center;">Include At the Well in the subject of your email.<br /></div><br />I will not share, sell, or allow your contact information to be used by a third party.<br /><br /><div style="text-align: center;">Content for At the Well E-News is based on my book:<br /></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 153); font-weight: bold;">Your Neighbor Has AIDS</span>.<br /></div><br /><div style="text-align: center;">Other free downloads that I offer to family, friends, and loved ones can be found at my online <a style="font-weight: bold;" href="http://www.deborahelake.com/">HIV Resource Center</a>:<br /></div><br /><div style="text-align: center;"><a style="font-weight: bold;" href="http://deborahelake.com/">Bridging the Gaps: When Someone You Know has AIDS</a><br /></div><br /><div style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.deborahelake.com/">When It's Time to Choose Your Doctor</a><br /></div><br />Always Remember,<br />God Is With Us!<br /><br /><a href="http://mailto:contact@deborahelake.com/">Reverend Deborah Elandus Lake</a><br /><br /><br /><br /># # #<br /><br />Copyright 2009: At the Well E-News title and content are the property of Deborah Elandus Lake. May not be used, copied, paraphrased, or reproduced without written permission.<br /><br /></div>Elandushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00131744423302201676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8540865045520642734.post-43261295374155923142008-12-24T03:21:00.000-06:002008-12-24T03:25:35.229-06:00When It’s Time to Choose Your DoctorFinding the doctor that is right for you is complicated. With HIV, there are many things to consider, and each journey is different. I have listed some questions and concerns that are important when looking for and deciding on a doctor.<br /><br />Some Questions to Ask<br />How many patients with HIV have you treated? How many do you currently see?<br /><br />Are you a conservative doctor (do you prefer “tried and true” methods to treating HIV/AIDS?<br /><br />Are you willing to try new or experimental treatments (will I be asked to participate in trials for research)?<br /><br />Are you comfortable with my lifestyle (talk about things that may get in the way of communication)?<br /><br />Are you part of a system of overall support for people living with HIV/AIDS?<br /><br />Some Thoughts About Relationship<br />Some people want to take an active role in planning their healthcare. They read on their own, and bring information to their doctors. Other people want the doctor to make the decisions in their healthcare. Make sure you know what type of relationship would best suit you.<br /><br />Some Thoughts About Communication<br />Once you decide on a doctor, be sure to share how you feel about taking medication, and about having HIV or AIDS. Expect your doctor to take the time to listen to what you have to say. Tell your doctor about other drugs (legal or not) you are using. Be open and honest about your lifestyle. How you eat, sleep, have sex, and work make a difference in your care. If you feel you cannot talk about something that is important, this may be a sign that you should look for a more compatible doctor.<br /><br />How to Engage Your Family<br />When you are ready to talk with the people who are important in your life, Your Neighbor Has AIDS will help find ways to begin the conversation. Copies are available at amazon.com, Borders Books, Brush Arbor Press, and other selected book stores.<br /><br /><br />For more information about HIV/AIDS contact these resources:<br />Brush Arbor Press/Consultants www.brusharborpress.com, Centers for Disease Control www.cdc.gov/hiv, National HIV and STD Testing Resources www.hivtest.org, The Ruth Rothstein CORE Center, www.corecenter.org<br /><br />© 2008 Deborah E. Lake. All rights reserved.Elandushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00131744423302201676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8540865045520642734.post-18386523902041504072008-12-11T13:14:00.002-06:002008-12-11T13:24:15.892-06:00Press Release: Breaking Barriers to HIV TreatmentWorking with family members and friends of people diagnosed with HIV taught a Chicago minister how important close connections are to encouraging people who are newly diagnosed with HIV to seek treatment. “People react with shock and denial, and put off seeking the treatment that will help give them a better quality of life and longer survival.” Said Rev. Deborah E. Lake who has put her insights into a tightly crafted, easy to read book, Your Neighbor Has AIDS. The book is a guide that informs the community surrounding the person who is HIV positive, and contains a set of sep-by-step pathways that lead caregivers, who may feel helpless and overwhelmed, to finding ways to help. <br /><br />"I decided to write this book because I know that family members and loved ones play a key role in how quickly people come to terms with being HIV positive," said Lake during a recent book signing. “At least one study has specifically shown that psychological barriers such as guilt or isolation keep women from seeking treatment immediately,” Lake continued. "This is probably also true for men, and quick follow-up to a test that is positive is crucial to getting the treatment that can lead to avoiding possible health related catastrophes."<br /><br />“Even when family members know that a person is HIV positive, they usually don’t know how to help,” said Jonetta Choi who is a board member of Sankofa Way, founded in 2003 to address spiritual needs in secular places. "Often people are encouraged to pray for healing. Prayers are important, but we can do more,” continued Choi. “We can listen which is sometimes the hardest thing to do. Listen without judgment." <br /><br />After reading Lake’s book, a young woman who is a social worker commented, "I wish I'd had this book when I first learned that my father had HIV. I didn't know what to do, and your book would have helped.”<br /><br />Reverend Deborah Lake, is the executive director of Sankofa Way Spiritual Services, a non-profit organization that addresses the spiritual needs of people in the public sector while maintaining the constitutional requirement of separation of church and state. She gives trainings, workshops, and community forums, on sexuality and the spread of HIV, the separation of church and state, and is available to speak at churches, schools, and community groups.<br /><br />Rev. Lake can be contacted through Sankofa Way: sankofaway@sankofaway.org or Brush Arbor Press: 312 324 3379 for interviews or requests for her to speak.<br /><br />Your Neighbor Has AIDS is published by Brush Arbor Press, www.brusharborpress.com, and available through Amazon.com, Borders Books and other bookstores for $17.95. ISBN number: 978-0-6151-4269-2Elandushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00131744423302201676noreply@blogger.com